Tuesday, June 24, 2014


4 years sober. Incredible.
If I can do it anyone can.
I lost track of my sober date, so when I came to my blog to check it out I was surprised that I had missed it. That's how life gets though, after you have been sober for a while. I stopped counting a long time ago but I still say the milestones out loud to a few of the people closest to me.
I can't imagine what my life would be like right now if I had come home from Afghanistan as an alcoholic. It's hard enough managing PTSD without the added burden of being a drunk! It's a sad reality for a lot of veterans though. Self medicating through alcohol is huge in the military community. I still have friends who drink but a majority of them don't. That has been critical in recovery. You know what else I notice? The fact that my husband and I don't drink encourages other people around us not to drink. It's kind of awesome. We are in a position now of helping others who drink too much. It's easier for me to talk about to other people. My husband even refers some of our clients to me when they admit to him that they think they might have a problem with drinking.
When I started on my path to sobriety I didn't tell anyone. I just sobered up. When my husband noticed that I wasn't drinking anymore I admitted to him that I knew that I was an alcoholic. And you know what? He was so proud of me for quitting. He asked me why I didn't tell him earlier. I realized at that time that I had to get sober for myself. Not for him, not for anyone else, for me.
Eventually I told my cousin/best friend. She was a long time drinking buddy and it was a hard thing to do. She loved me anyways. And life went on just like that. Sober.
I have had my ups and downs. It hasn't been easy all the time but something stuck with me. I can't remember where I read this- so if you wrote it let me know. I read a story about a guy who sobered up. Some time later his daughter died and he turned to alcohol. Then he said, "When I sobered up I realized she was still dead." This stayed with me because sometimes when things get bad I remember that. No matter what happens- if I start drinking the problem/issue/pain is still going to be there when I sober up.
I'm 4 years sober.


  1. Congratulations. You are a miracle. And thank YOU for serving and keeping us free. Freedom from alcohol....god bless you..!!

  2. Your post was an incredible summation of experiencing childhood in al alcoholic crew. I simply sent a connection to this post to three of my nieces and one sister in law. I printing it and taking it to the penitentiary where I volunteer.

  3. I'm happy to hear that you and your husband have been a stepping stone for others toward sobriety. It can be very hard to admit to oneself that they are an alcoholic, but you accepted it and overcame it. I am genuinely proud of you because of that. Alcohol only solves the problem temporarily. It can even leave you with a bad hangover, which can only make matters worse. I'm glad there are people like you who understand that and live by it. I wish you and you husband all the best! :)

    Donnie Benson @ Midwest Institute for Addiction